I'm here to set you up for REAL love and put an end to your self-sabotage,
-it's time to cut through the crap and claim the love you deserve.
No more playing games
ABOUT ME
From the age of 19- 35 I spent my life in 3 long-term relationships, in hindsight, I should probably have left them all after 6 months.
I was truly unhappy, my efforts were never reciprocated and I felt hard to love. I was always expecting them to make me feel happy. Disappointed when they couldn’t, and I always thought that there would be someone else that could love me in the way I wanted to be loved. On my pursuit of finding love that felt good, I ended up jumping from relationship to relationship, not having the courage to leave until I’d met someone that could “love me better”.
In my last long term relationship that ended in 2015, I was starting to question why I was getting the same outcome with every man I had a relationship with. Enter the Taylor Swift-esque realization— 'It’s me- I’m the problem it’s me'.
I WANNA WORK WITH YOU
The real journey is not about finding love, it’s about becoming the love you always needed
Becoming single at the age of 35
might sound like a bummer
It turned out to be just what I needed. I was more curious and alive than I'd been in ages.
With my broken relationships leaving me feeling difficult to love, I realised that there was a pattern in my life and decided to seek help from a therapist. We had some nice chats about life and books etc but in the end, I got not real help from her other than a confirmation that I was codependent. She let me off to the world with a book recommendation about someone else’s codependency break free journey. (which I still haven’t read)
This was my “screw this - I am fixing myself” moment
I went on a quest and started to read books about codependency, attachment theory, self growth books to understand how the heck I heck I kept landing the same no-good guys time and again
Realising the real problem isn’t a “now” -problem
One of the most important AHA -moments from reading these books the actual realisation that my difficulties to attract men that could provide me with the love and safety I needed in a relationship wasn’t a “now”-problem - it was a lingering issue from the past. (and I was focused on solving the “now” which is merely just a symptom of past issues)
The root cause behind my difficulty in feeling loved was the baggage carried from my younger, hurt inner child who never had her needs met. Recognizing this, I made a profound promise to her—I vowed to always care for and love her, ensuring no one would mistreat her again
This promise became the cornerstone of my healing journey. Though the road was rocky, I started paying attention, identifying patterns, and consistently connecting with my inner child and wounded parts. Soon, it felt like I was dating with my eyes wide open for the first time.
I figured out all the details of what the heck I wanted in a relationship, how I want to be treated, how I want to feel, dealbreakers, lifestyle compatibility, non-negotiables, prioritising ME, my hobbies and alone time. I did it all!
This inner work shielded me from being swept away by my emotions and reverting to old patterns where my inner child would desperately get easily triggered by small things and resort to self-sabotage in a desperate attempt to fulfill her basic needs.
For a good amount of 5 years, I was fannying around, doing the inner work, occasionally slipping into old habits - until I finally got my shit together and manifested the relationship I wanted.
After enduring the pain of staying emotionally unavailable men, seeking professional help that led to a lousy book recommendation, I felt compelled to ensure my rocky journey wasn't in vain. I'm here to help women like you move past anxious attachment and become the love they've always wanted.
Are you ready to claim the love
you deserve?
HELL YES! I AM READY
nina positive love
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